Today's prophet is sealed to two wives

Admitted

Their own church publications admit these facts. You can make this point from LDS sources alone.

What is still practised

A widowed man may be sealed to a second wife while he is still sealed to the first. Two church presidents are in that position.

Russell M. Nelson was sealed to Wendy Watson in 2006, after Dantzel died.

Dallin H. Oaks was sealed to Kristen McMain in 2000, after June died.

Each is sealed to two women for eternity.

The part that is not equal

A living woman cannot be sealed to a second man unless the first sealing is cancelled. And D&C 132 has never been removed from the canon.

Who feels it

Carol Lynn Pearson gathered the accounts in The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy, published in 2016. They are believing Latter-day Saint women who expect to be shared in eternity.

This is grief, not a debating point.

Their answer, at full strength

Dallin H. Oaks answered it directly in General Conference in October 2019.

The church makes no doctrinal claim about how families are arranged in the next life. Trust the Lord.

Sealing tangles will be sorted out by a loving God, and nobody will be given an eternal arrangement they do not want. Since 1998, deceased women may be sealed by proxy to every man they married in life, on the assumption that she will choose.

The rule about living women is administrative. And the church has not practised plural marriage since 1904; it excommunicates those who do.

How strong is this argument?

They admit the policy. It is in the Handbook and it is public.

Oaks's answer is a candid "we don't know," and that is worth respecting. It also settles nothing.

The gap between what a widower may do and what a widow may do is still in force.

What to say

"If a man's wife dies he can be sealed again. Can a woman?"

Dallin H. Oaks, photographed in 1971; he addressed eternal sealing questions in general conference in 2019

A Salt Lake Temple sealing room for the living, photographed in 1912 for the church's own book

How they answer this — at its strongest

Oaks says we do not know, and no one gets an eternity they do not want.

Dallin H. Oaks addressed this directly in General Conference in October 2019. The church makes no doctrinal claim about how families are arranged in the next life.

Trust in the Lord. Tangles in sealings will be resolved by a loving God, and nobody will receive an eternal arrangement they do not want.

Since 1998, deceased women may be sealed by proxy to all the men they married in life, on the assumption that the woman will choose. The restriction on living women is administrative, not a claim about eternal rank.

And the church has not practised plural marriage since 1904. It excommunicates those who do.

The verdict

They admit the policy, and a candid 'we don't know' still settles nothing.

The uneven rule, the leaders' own second sealings, and the canonical standing of D&C 132 are all public record and current Handbook policy. Russell M. Nelson was sealed to Wendy Watson in 2006. Dallin H. Oaks was sealed to Kristen McMain in 2000.

Their reply is a candid 'we don't know'. That eases the pastoral weight, and it is worth respecting. It refutes nothing.

The gap between what a widower may do and what a widow may do is still in force. Carol Lynn Pearson gathered the grief that follows in The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy, in 2016.

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